Enter: College BFF.
As her shoulder during all world-ending, soul-crushing events (see: current pre-VDay breakup), I have come to realize that, as girls, we pretty much all handle this sort of thing the same way.
No matter who you are, what your situation in life, or how long you were dating, unhooking is HARD.
After a breakup, here's what a week can hold:
- 7 times sobbing so hard you can't breathe.
- 14 times misting up but not quite losing it completely.
- 97 times starting to email, call, or text him.
- At least 1 time of hitting "send" with what you think is a breezy message.
- 600 times of manically re-reading the sent message and realizing it didn't sound breezy at all.
- 2 times actually being nervous that there is something wrong with you and you need to call a doctor because you think you are losing your mind.
- 750 times you can't look at something you previously enjoyed because it reminds you of him.
- 12 times of getting lost in a fantasy of your eventual reunion.
- At least once hoping that they are miserable to the point that they have explosive diarrhea and eyes so swollen from crying that they experience permanent loss of facial elasticity.
But then one day you are just too tired to cry about it anymore. The effort of the process just wears you out.
And that's ok. You don't have to stay mad.
Allow yourself to be grateful for what you had even though you don't have it anymore, and move on. At some point, happiness is a choice.
Valentine's Day is about love. No one said it had to be a significant other.
Throw on that hot dress, go out with your single girls, and have an amazing boy-free Valentine's Day with the girls you love. That's what I'll be doing.
And here's to hoping we can make it through the list before then, because honestly, I'm exhausted from her emotions. (For those curious about my BFF, we are currently in the "I can't enjoy anything in my life because it all reminds me of him" stage.)